Sex, Singleness & Separation

Relationally Challenged- First Corinthians Part 2

Speaker: Pastor Ty Neal
Date: December 31, 1969

This is a series about relationships. Relationship with God. Relationship with self. Relationship with others. Relationship with friends. Relationship with enemies. Relationship with church people. Relationship with non-church people. Relationship with your spouse. Relationship as a single. Relationship with sex. Relationship without sex. Relationship with the opposite gender. Relationship with the same gender. Relationships are challenging. Join us for Relationally Challenged: 1 Corinthians Part II 6/10-7/15




Sex, Singleness & Separation

 1 Corinthians 7:1- 1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: "It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman." 

 Issue #1 Sex

 1 Corinthians 7:2 - 2But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 

1 Corinthians 7:3 – 3The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 

1 Corinthians 7:4 - 4For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

1 Corinthians 7:5- 5Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:6- 6Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. 


Issue #2 Singleness

 1 Corinthians 7:7- 7I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9- 8To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. 9But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.


Issue #3 Separation

 1 Corinthians 7:10-11- 10To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11(but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.

Mark 10:6-9- 6But from the beginning of creation, 'God made them male and female.' 7'Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, 8and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two but one flesh. 9What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."

Matthew 19:7-9- 7They said to him, "Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?" 8He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery."

Deuteronomy 24:1- 1"When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, 

 Quote: “The assumption is someone is just right for us to marry and if we look closely enough we will find that just right person. This assumption overlooks a very crucial aspect of marriage. It overlooks the fact that you always marry the wrong person. We never know whom we marry. We just think we do and even if we do, just give it a while and he or she will change for marriage, being the enormous thing that it is, means we are not the same person after we have entered it. One of the primary challenges of marriage is learning how to love and care for the stranger to whom you so often find yourself married.” Stanley Hauerwas

Matthew 19:9-10- 9And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery." 10The disciples said to him, "If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry." 

 1 Corinthians 6:12- 12"All things are lawful for me," but not all things are helpful. "All things are lawful for me," but I will not be dominated by anything. 

Romans 8:1- 1There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.


 1 Corinthians 7:12-13- 12To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 

 1 Corinthians 7:14- 14For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 

 1 Corinthians 7:15- 15But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.

 1 Corinthians 7:16- 16For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?