Living Upstream - Week 6 - How Can I Have A Healthy Marriage?
Speaker: Ty Neal
Date: October 17, 2016
Jesus calls us to follow him, plain and simple. It seems like everything inside, and especially outside of us, is calling us to go the opposite way. It feels like swimming against the current - upstream. How are we supposed to live in the world, but not of it? In a world that looks so unhealthy, how do we find any health in our lives? How different are we expected to be? The reality is that following Jesus is counter-intuitive and counter-cultural. Following Jesus doesn't just effect our souls, but our lives, all of it - our relationships, marriage, money, time, values, view of races and even politics! Join us as we discover how to find health in an unhealthy world and Live Upstream. New teaching series begins September 11th.
How Can I Have A Healthy Marriage?
“not of the world, but sent into the world”
 But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’  ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife,  and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.  What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
1. Jesus - Loves Unconditionally
 For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.  For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
2. Jesus - Is For, Not Against
 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?  He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?
 The Son of Man has come reating and drinking, and you say, ‘Look at him! A glutton and a drunkard, sa friend of tax collectors and sinners!
Song of Solomon 5:16
 His mouth is most sweet,
and he is altogether desirable.
This is my beloved and this is my friend,
O daughters of Jerusalem.
Happy marriages are based on a deep friendship. By this I mean a mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other’s company. These couples tend to know each other intimately—they are well versed in each other’s likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes, and dreams. They have an abiding regard for each other and express this fondness not just in the big ways but in little ways day in and day out… . Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse. —David Blankenhorn
3. Jesus - Forgives And Forgive And Forgives…
 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,  bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
1 John 4:20
If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.
“To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” —C.S. Lewis
4. Jesus - Gives Us His
 And Jesus came and said to them, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me.  Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,  teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”
5. Jesus - Never Forgets You
 Drink water from your own cistern,
flowing water from your own well.
 Should your springs be scattered abroad,
streams of water in the streets?
 Let them be for yourself alone,
and not for strangers with you.
 Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
 a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
be intoxicated always in her love.
 But Zion said, “The LORD has forsaken me;
my Lord has forgotten me.”
 “Can a woman forget her nursing child,
that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb?
Even these may forget,
yet I will not forget you.
 Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands;
your walls are continually before me.
Big Idea: I can now give what has been given to me in Christ.
“The hard times of marriage drive us to experience more of this transforming love of God.” —Tim Keller